Single men, who want to be fathers but do not wish to enter into relationships with women, are increasingly choosing the surrogacy route. Men being single parents is not new; widowers and divorced men have always brought up children on their own. Now, with the easy availability of surrogacy services, male-male couples and even single men can indulge in the joys of parenthood.
Single men looking for surrogacy must first know the difference between traditional and gestational surrogacy, and be aware that they will be allowed only to avail gestational surrogacy in India. Traditional surrogacy is not practiced because of possible legal and emotional complications and donor eggs would be required.
Single Fatherhood through Surrogacy
The desire for fatherhood does not have to be necessarily connected to or dependent on a relationship with a woman. A large number of men opting for surrogacy are gay, though there are straight men, too, who do not have a woman partner but wish to be fathers.
As with any new idea, this one too may take some time to be accepted, but is on its way there. Society is beginning to see that men can have strong fatherly instincts and want to have a baby who has their genes.
The American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) in its Ethics Committee Report recognizes the fact that gay and lesbian people most certainly have the desire to raise children. To people who are concerned about the ‘normal upbringing’ of children raised by gay or lesbian parents, it quotes the following study by the American Psychological Association:
“Results of social science research have failed to confirm any of these concerns about children of lesbian and gay parents…Overall results of research suggest that the development, adjustment, and well-being of children with lesbian and gay parents do not differ markedly from that of children with heterosexual parents.”
The ASRM report also says that in the United States there are an estimated 6 to 14 million children being raised by at least one gay or lesbian parent, usually as a result of a heterosexual relationship.
It is not just the gays who are looking for surrogates. Straight men who haven’t been able to find their spouse, but feel the need of a family, also seek the help of surrogates. However, it’s not all easy. Single men, especially gay men, are not exactly on top of the preferred list of surrogate mothers, egg donors, or surrogacy agencies. The convention labels men as “bread-winners”—who are expected to go to work and earn money for their family but when it comes to raising kids, their skills are actually doubted.
A New York lawyer Steven Harris told ABC News in Jun’12 how we was turned away by several adoption agencies before he decided to go the surrogacy way. Today, he is the proud father of a 5-year-old and is happy being in, what he calls “a kind of family with one daddy.” Ofcourse, he is still looking for a potential partner, but with the biological clock ticking, he didn’t want wait to have kids.
The Cost of Surrogacy
Many other single men like him, who are desirous of having kids of their own, are discouraged by the high costs of surrogacy in the US, UK, Australia and other countries, where the cost of medical procedures, especially the elective ones, are beyond the financial means of many.
The cost of surrogacy in the US can be upwards of $ 80,000, with the final bill depending upon the number of IVFs needed. This high cost is what makes the trend of single men and surrogacy even more unique, as men seem to be willing to shell out such a high figure for the joy of having a baby. This should be enough proof of the genuineness of their intention to be fathers.
The cost of surrogacy in India is a fourth of US costs. The cost saving combined with the advantage of superb service by Indian fertility clinics makes it a popular choice with Westerners. Single men are treated on par with other clients who wish to be parents and are not discriminated against.
Surrogacy Success Rates
Whether you are opting for surrogacy in India or in your home country, you have the right to obtain from the fertility clinic data on their success rates with different methods used. (Success rates refer to the number of live births per embryo transfer.) The success rates (computed monthly) of our network surrogacy clinic in India is between 50-70%. US surrogacy success rates were 52.3% in 2005.
Egg Donor for Single Men Seeking Surrogacy in India
In the case of single men opting for surrogacy, an egg donor is always required, unlike in the case of heterosexual/lesbian couples or single women. For those opting for India as their surrogacy destination, one thing to be kept in mind is that the egg donors there are mostly of Indian origin. If this is an issue and if the intending parent wishes that the baby have an ethnicity other than Indian, he can always opt to bring with him egg donors from his home country.
Also, do keep in mind that sex selection of the fetus is prohibited by Indian law and is a very serious offense. The sex of the fetus will be kept confidential and will not be revealed to you till the time of birth.
Surrogacy programs in India are as successful as any other good program in the world; they involve strict screening of egg donors and confidentiality maintained. Low cost surrogacy in India makes it possible even for single men, who are not super-rich, to start a family.
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